disclaimer: Chip & Joanna are not guests and were not involved in the making of this episode.
In Episode 9, I have a conversation with Liz Higgins, founder of Millennial Life Counseling about how Chip and Joanna Gaines have cultivated such a healthy and happy relationship, and why we’re all SO captivated by them.
Liz explains that they have an interdependent relationship which is what all marriages should aspire to be in their own unique ways.
In This Episode:
- Why you want an interdependent relationship.
- Have Chip and Joana found the secret sauce? And can we get some!?
- What do do when your reliance on your partner has gone into over-drive.
- Friends who get into a relationship and then fall off the face of the earth.
- How to achieve a good balance within all the relationships in your life.
- What is a co-dependent relationship? Does it sound like yours?
- Why is it unhealthy to constantly feel like you want to fix, take care of, change, or rescue your partner?
- Want to know when studies show we are most attracted to our partners?
- Why is it so important to encourage your partner to feed his/her passions?
- Why relationships need stress bark.
- The houseboat story that launched Fixer Upper and how it’s a metaphor for the impactful moment that occurs in so many relationships and makes them stronger.
- Fights and arguments are not bad, they’re actually quite good. We have to normalize them because when you get through them you get to the next, better, phase of your relationship.
Liz walks us through her 5 Tips for Cultivating Your Own Interdependent Relationship:
(1) Take care of yourself for your partner, and your partner should take care of him/her self for you.
(2) Always continue to know and discover your partner. Never assume you know everything.
(3) Prioritize your relationship. Do things every day that fit into the type of relationship you want to have.
(4) Do things apart. See your friends. Go spend time with other relationships in your life. It’s very important to spend time with other people who support your relationship.
(5) Talk about the hard things. Go through the difficult phases. Don’t just fight your way through them, but instead prioritize communicating about them. It will help you feel like you can come to each other with anything. A big part of having an interdependent relationship is knowing you can stir up difficult feelings in your partner but they’ll be able to handle it.
We also found this fun article: Chip and Joanna Gaines Reveal the Secret to Their Successful Marriage.
Liz Higgins Bio: Liz Higgins is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Dallas, TX. She is the founder of Millennial Life Counseling, a practice focused on helping couples and individuals create epic marriages, relationships, and lives in the modern world. Liz’s relationship blogs have been featured on The Huffington Post, Today, The Gottman Institute Blog, Prepare-Enrich, and more. Liz has a publication in the AAMFT Magazine, and continues to write and speak on millennial trends related to couple dynamics.
Follow Liz Higgins and Millennial Life Counseling: millenniallifecounseling.com
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